Dating takes some creativity, courage and flexibility. Make sure you ask your date out by Thursday, because he or she might make other plans by the time the weekend comes around. I know you’re probably nervous about asking, but you can do it. The worst the person can say is no, and the best he or she can say is yes. If he says no, just jump right back in there and try someone else. Believe in yourself.
People usually enjoy going to a variety of places. When dating, being together is very important. However, I don’t advise you to see each other every waking hour. You are just learning about each other so keep a little distance. It is good to see one another two or three times a week, if possible.
Coming up with dating ideas can be a bit of a challenge, but it is a fun kind of challenge. Going out doesn’t have to require lots of money, just an open spirit. Window-shopping is more enjoyable on a date; there is a lot to look at and explore. But if your date does not like shopping, then I wouldn’t advise it.
Movies are popular on dates. Some movie theaters even allow people with disabilities to get in for free. Several theaters also have areas where you can place a wheelchair right next to the regular movie seats. If you can and prefer to get out of your wheelchair for the movie, don’t be afraid to ask your date for help. If he or she is worth dating, he or she won’t mind at all to assist you.
Concerts, plays, sporting events and comedy clubs are excellent dating possibilities. Once you both find out what music each other likes, you can begin looking for a local concert. Keep an eye out on local events you both will enjoy. Places should have reserved seating for people with disabilities. Remember to ask for the special tickets when you order because, unfortunately, this seating is limited.
When the weather is nice, more dating ideas become available. Picnics in the park can be very romantic. You can also take walks and, if you live near one, go to the beach. The zoo is also a fun trip.
Whatever you decide to do, you’ll be fine if you remember to be flexible when things don’t go exactly as planned, polite and grateful for the time you spend together. Enjoy!
Jessica McFarlane writes and teaches about relationships. Contact her at talkaboutlove@icanonline.net
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March 28, 2000