Do you find yourself singing mushy love songs in the middle of the day? Are you excited whenever you hear that special person?s name or voice? Does your heart feel like it?s going to leap out of your chest at the sight of him or her? If you answered yes, you just might be falling in love. Love is wonderful, but don?t be fooled. Take it nice and slow and things will go smoothly.
When you find someone that you really like, powerful emotions take over. Infatuation is mistakenly taken for love. Feeling this natural high is a terrific experience and one that should be treasured, but don?t call it love just yet. Real love comes with time. You see the person?s worst as well as their best. You grow deeper in love with them everyday. Being in love is still thrilling, but there is a gentle peace.
Telling another person that you love them is a serious thing. Love is a word that is so powerful yet is often misused. Oftentimes people say that they love a certain food or music group, but that?s just a convenient figure of speech. When you want to proclaim your love, take some things into consideration: Do you want the best for them? Are you ready to act on this love by caring, supporting, forgiving and being with them? Love is not selfish. If you say you love someone just to please your own needs, you are not really in love.
Remember not to use love as an excuse. For example, people stay in an abusive relationship because they love the other person. Love does not include physical, emotional or sexual abuse. Do yourself a huge favor and end the relationship. If your mate really loved you, he or she would not cause you this pain. You deserve the best. And if you?re the abuser, think about what you?re doing. You are crushing someone?s spirit, not to mention what you?re doing to yourself. I suggest you get some professional help.
Hopefully, one day you will find someone that you are truly in love with, and maybe you will be on the road to marriage. Love is a marvelous thing to feel, to have and to give away. Make sure you love someone for the right reasons and you aren?t abusing love, and all will be good.
Jessica McFarlane writes and teaches about relationships. Contact her at talkaboutlove@icanonline.net
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March 5, 2001